Thread:Saruhikofushimis/@comment-5785681-20200913183609/@comment-27869316-20200918053601

Me being headstrong and opinionated on a topic in a discussion has no correlation to my level of respect for or opinionsof you as a person; I never attacked you personally or called you names, I simply disagreed with your opinion. If you are unable to hold a mildly vigorous discussion on a topic without feeling slighted by the person you’re talking with when they fail to be swayed by your argument then perhaps you need to re-evaluate your suitability to an admin role. Admins and bureaucrats need to be capable of holding such discussions, and receive criticism, while remaining calm and reasonable; otherwise how can they be trusted to not get upset and block people when the conversations take place with those are not on an equal power level to them.

By failing to address several well thought out responses and reasoned logic, from not only myself but Ty as well, and instead resorting to an overly dramatic guilt-tripping statement like this it comes across as not only unprofessional, but borderline manipulative. Frankly, you’ve patronized, belittled, and disregarded me and others in discussions before but I’ve always brushed it off or held my tongue as: A. I felt bringing it up would be more trouble than it was worth, & B. given the semi-professional/co-worker like environment it didn't feel appropriate. However, given your latest response it would be remiss of me at this point not to discuss it.

Having observed your behaviour over the past year and a half through similar discussions I’ve noted you have a tendency to throw the adult equivalent of a tantrum when you feel that things aren’t going your way or that you’re being ganged-up on. You become hostile, rude & overly emotional, driving the discussion away from the topic at hand by making appeals to emotion (such as your last comment above). I even had an editor (who will remain anonymous) confide in me through discord that the way you talk to people in discussions made them uncomfortable and found your attitude both self-contradictory and overbearing. This was made particularly clear during two recent discussions imo: the romaji/rōmaji/roumaji discussion on here, and the spelling discussion on the PP wiki. In the former you stopped responding as soon as the discussion stopped going “your way” and we never came to a definitive conclusion as a result, and in the latter you used your elevated position as a bureaucrat to overrule me despite the fact I had the support of Hei as your fellow admin (even though ideally bureaucrats and admins are supposed to be no more important than a regular user in site discussions).

In short, you’ve chastised me numerous times for failing to “compromise”, not only now but in other discussions, which personally /I/ find disrespectful as it means you have failed to recognise the many times where I’ve had to bend my integrity or beliefs to meet you half way, and is frankly a bit hypocritical.

-Fox 05:36, September 18, 2020 (UTC)